Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in between partners, sex toys can offer an intimate way to explore and enjoy pleasure. But with a seemingly endless array of options to choose from, knowing which gadgets are the right fit can be challenging. To help, we’ve rounded up a variety of sexy gadgets for all gender identities, sexual and intimate experiences, and preferences, from vibrators to bondage gear.

Sex toys have long been a part of human sexuality, with the world’s oldest dildo dating back to 28,000 BC. Today’s toys are available in a wide range of sizes and styles, from suction-cup dildos to vibrators that target the anal canal or anal sphincter. Some even use abrasive surfaces to stimulate nerve endings in the vagina. Regardless of your preferred sensations, the key to using sex toys is to be aware of your body and the potential for discomfort. Aim for a gentle, slow start and move up the intensity as your comfort level increases.

When used responsibly, sex toys can enhance your sexual experience, increase intimacy in a relationship, or even aid in healing following an STI or unplanned pregnancy. But it’s important to know your body, to avoid abrasive or painful stimulation, and to use lube with all toys, especially internal ones like the clitoral viber below.

You may be surprised to learn that you already have a pleasure trove in your own home. Rummaging through your nightstand drawer might unearth a hidden treasure, but you can also find a variety of sex toys for all tastes and budgets online or in specialty stores, often called sex shops or sex stores. In addition, many pharmacies and some large retail stores sell a limited selection of sex toys for adults.

Some people also use sex toys to treat conditions, including erectile dysfunction and genital arousal disorder, or to reduce symptoms of menopause, such as pelvic pain. And masturbation with sex toys has been shown to relieve period cramps and lower your risk of prostate cancer.

While it’s entirely normal to enjoy sex toys solo, using them in conjunction with your partner(s) or in a polyamorous relationship can foster trust and open communication. It’s also important to balance your pleasure with other activities that don’t involve a toy, as overreliance on toys can create barriers to emotional connection and intimacy.

While we’ve rounded up some of our favorites below, remember that the best sex toys are the ones that feel good to you. The type of pleasure you experience is influenced by your individual anatomy, hormones, and emotions, which can change daily and over the course of your life. To ensure you’re choosing the best sex toy for you, consider consulting with an experienced therapist or sex & intimacy coach to explore your needs and fantasies, or visit a store together and shop for a new toy to experiment with. (You can even shop online together to encourage conversation and build intimacy.)